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LinkedIn Facebook Twitter In normal, or even slightly good or bad times, anyone can be a good friend, a good business partner or a good spouse. Extremes do. Well, everyone makes a mistake or breaks from time to time, but if you see consistently atypical behavior in extreme times when interacting with someone, you can see deep down their soul.
When things go really badly, people very clearly show how strong their rational part is compared to their instincts as well as how stable their emotional self is. They show their true nature and how mature they really are to other people. Surprisingly, when things go extremely well, the darker human nature often comes into play even more. Thus we have two real life relationships test — both extremes, when things go either really well or really badly, put relationships to Love good or bad tough test, especially the closest ones.
Bad times are usually a very tough testing period for relationships. Any kind of adversity, losses and other tragic situations, big or small, have a huge impact on your life and your relationship with other people. Job loss, money issues, accidents, death of the people you love, you name it. Either people turn on each Love good or bad and start fighting, or the extremely bad situation gives them an opportunity to connect even more and deepen the relationship.
The fact is that relationships that endure extremely tough times usually become even more substantial. I guess the second options is a good thing in a bad thing. But unfortunately people prefer to turn on each other than find a deeper mutual connection. But why? Many times, extremely bad times make you feel bad about yourself, they hinder your self-confidence, and they make you feel more insecure and intolerant. Consequently, your capacity for love decreases.
The more your self-confidence is damaged by an external event, the more your capacity for love decreases. If your perception of value was, for example, strongly Love good or bad in your fancy job and you lost the job, you feel unworthy and thus your perception of your value in a relationship changes as well.
By fighting, you usually want to make people love you more and chain them onto yourself in a very aggressive way. You protect yourself and your feeling of value by blaming others. Ironically, the easiest way to start a fight is with the people you love and care about the most. You get insecure, aggressive and start accusing your loved ones instead of facing the truth and building even stronger relationships based on more effective communication, mutual care, empathy and understanding.
It can be done, but it takes a lot more effort. Much less obvious is why people fight when things go extremely well; well, usually they go extremely well for one person in a relationship or even both parties. Examples of extremely good times are when someone gets a big promotion, enters a new well-known social circle, gets to know new people who rank higher than them on the sexual market value and is exposed to their affection, when business goes really well, when someone acquires larger sums of money etc.
Two things very often happen in that kind of a situation. First of all, outer stimuli good happening stroke the ego too much. The second thing that often surfaces is the natural human tendency of trying to progress and strive for better things in life. When something extremely good happens to you, you get a new reference point. You feel Love good or bad better than you used to. So everything around you must be much better than it used to be, from items to people; and so you start looking for things and social circles in the same new league.
Because your perception of value increased, you also look for people who have higher value in your eyes. It's some kind of The Diderot Effect : The Diderot Effect states that obtaining a new fancy possession often creates a spiral of consumption which le you to acquire more new fancy things.
As a result, you end up buying things that your self never needed to feel happy or fulfilled. It happens pretty the same in the relationships. Both things, the illusion of ego and the new view of higher self-worth, lead to a big relationship test with all the people with whom you had normal and totally good relationships before that extremely good thing happened. You still have some kind of an attachment to the people in your life, which le to internal conflict. You still care for them but you want to move on at the same time. Last but not least, there is always also a question of what will happen when good times go away and your luck strikes out, who will you go to then?
When things go really well, your instincts should be to share your happiness and success with the people you lovenot feeling superior to them and seeing them as less valuable. Love good or bad if your emotional self does feel a little better for a second, your rational part should correct your emotions Love good or bad.
If your emotions march off, you have to put them back into the right frame with your intellect. Just remind yourself why a relationship with someone is really important to you and what they contribute to your life. I have seen it a hundred times in personal and professional lives. Suddenly a business takes off. One partner would like to cash out, the other to reinvest. Both of them see each other as an unnecessary part of the business and a burden to their own goals and interests.
They start fighting. Business goes down. Before, they were best friends. After the first real success, they become the worst enemies. A similar situation often happens in the personal life. Ask yourself the questions below. Would you stay with your spouse and friends and family or in any Love good or bad relationship? Would you spend more or less time with them? Would you start fooling around and find new friends or would you share your success with old friends? There are many other elements and angles that influence the quality and duration of relationships, but this kind of a test can still tell you a lot.
An example would be when parents die and inheritance has to be split among siblings. There are so many families where people really had strong bonds with each other, until something like that happened. The same situation often happens in business, when things go well in some ways generating money, usuallybut there are also many challenges present. People are afraid of losing something valuable and they often prefer to blame others than themselves for all the problems. Relationships become relationshits. We all sometimes make mistakes in relationships. We hurt people and people hurt us.
Those are the times when you should put in extra effort to strengthen the most valuable relationships in your life. Blaz Kos writes about data-driven personal development at AgileLeanLife. Blaz Kos helps people shape superior life strategies by: 1 employing the best business practices in personal life management, 2 teaching established psychological techniques to Love good or bad manage mind and emotions, and 3 setting goals based on understanding market paradigms, the quantified self, and following cold hardcore metrics that prevent any fake feeling of progress.
He is obsessively passionate about hi-tech, mass media, personal development and making the world a better place.
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