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Why would I? In my experience, friends came to me. In college, new friends came with the dorm. Marriage brought couple friends and work friends and eventually friends from having babies at the same time. I accumulated friends from Lamaze class, book clubs, church, neighborhood, carpool, PTA, swim team, and softball summers all the way through senior trip and the college application process.
I love my dear friends. Together we entered the phase of empty nesting, hosting weddings and then baby showers for our grown children. We cried together as we comforted those friends battling disease and debilitating losses. My childhood friendships were transient ones, and as a military brat, I developed survival instincts for friendship.
When you are always the new girl, you can tackle friendship by either ing in or waiting until an includer pulls you in. I usually waited around to be scooped up, and if nobody came forward, there was always a ragtag group of misfits and leftovers who tended to have kinder hearts than the in-crowd.
Shortly after the move, our old dog died, thus breaking what was left of my heart and removing the casual contact with friendly dog people. My friends called, texted, and sent encouragement my way. I wanted to stand up and wave my arms. Feeling my pain, my daughters launched Operation Find Carolyn Friendsand they texted with helpful hints — rescue a dog, a Meetup. Finally, slowly and painfully, I began to make inro.
I found a few dog people when I rescued a dog, a writer, a few readers, a historian, and the couple who rented our townhouse before us. Life felt a bit better. Then, on a snowy day when the neighbors were shoveling out their cars, my allegorical Scrabble tiles landed on a triple wordplay. They all came with compatible, interesting spouses, and soon, we were pulling out the good wine glasses. Once I started making new friends, I started noticing how different friendships are at this stage of life.
We arranged complicated adventures and tried out new restaurants. Though my old friendships hold the permanent record of my life, the new ones are full of potential. Even if you are like me and absolutely not a er, you have to suck it up and do it. I recommend Meetups. They do it because someone like me or my daughters tells them to at least try it.
I chose Meetups based on interests such as reading, walking, history, movies, and writing. Some were excruciating; others were warm and open. I considered it casting a wide net. Some people say they met friends in church groups and newcomers clubs. Good for them. I met a surprising quantity of people from that request, and my mother arranged the best one — the daughter of one of her friends who invited me to her book club of smart, interesting women. Since we are now in the decades of life where we can be picky about our time, volunteer for something you care about.
I checked out lots of options and found joy in choosing quirky, odd groups to do small good works. Did you like this article? up it's free! Subscribe for free here. What's Your Grief Archetype?
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