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Rob is a super geeky guy with a passion for stuff like Dungeons and Dragons and going to conventions. I'm a sarcastic introvert and barely reformed cool kid who can't help but raise their eyebrows at a grown man dressed up as an elf in a public setting.
However, if you look a little bit deeper, we're both video game nerds, we love to cook and try out new things, we're passionate about music and movies, and we both come from families with a passion for storytelling.
Being in a relationship with Rob is the first experience I have dating someone who shares so many of my interests. Sure, there are lots of things we each do on our own, but there are also many things we love doing together. And in my opinion, having so many mutual interests in common deepens our intimacy in truly meaningful way. While it seems pretty clear to me that the answer is "very.
I turned to the AskMen subreddit, where one redditor asked that specific question. And as is usually the case when I pay a visit to Reddit, I was not disappointed. While the men who responded didn't all agree with one another, they had plenty of interesting things to say.
Here are some statements that might just change the way you think about the importance of sharing common interests, according to 15 men on Reddit. But shared interests are not really important.
What is important is that you appreciate each other's interests. Shared interests can be a problem, too, because you feel you are competing with each other. So I don't ever use it as a criteria. Now I want a woman that doesn't really do anything I do, but which we can appreciate each other's mutual interests in the things we do engage in. If we really have a real passion in common, that's great, but by far it isn't necessary.
The matching of 'whys' behind passions and hobbies is a lot more important. Her understanding you and you understanding her. You can have a great experience with someone getting engaged about a subject even if the other person doesn't know the faintest thing or even is that hyped about it.
Physical attraction will only last so long. The right thing to do is both of you suck it up for the other. One of the fun parts of a relationship is introducing your partner to new stuff and having them introduce new activities and interests to you. I'm fine doing these things on my own or with friends.
Relationships where you share everything and can't go out to do your own thing would be too exhausting for me. It certainly helps if you or your partner have a couple of core-interests that you share, but more important is that you share most top-level values. But overall it's really not important to have shared interests. Much more important is sharing similar values. The main thing is that she shouldn't be critical of your hobbies, and vice versa with you.
I play video games, she doesn't, and she completely does not care.
Likewise, she loves cheeseball romantic comedies, and I don't, but I don't begrudge her for watching them. That being said, I think you should have enough in common that you can do at least some things together, and socialize with others doing other hobbies.
I think it's more important for values to align and for personalities to match. Having things you both like to do in common makes finding out if you're a good match much easier. There are some TV shows and movies we both like, but our tastes in that regard tend to be pretty different It isn't a problem for us. We respect each other's need to enjoy the things we like, don't put down each other's interests, and have no problem with the time we spend on our own hobbies and interests.
We talk about the things we like and do, and encourage each other. Arts and culture is a big thing for me. I like to see a lot of art exhibits, talk about books I read and go to shows, and I can't imagine dating someone who didn't enjoy these things. Defining what you are looking for in terms of concrete activities seems like an obviously good move. Allows me to spend more time alone and makes me more prepared for when we break up. For more of her work, check out her Tumblr. in. YourTango Experts. Photo: Getty. Rebecca Jane Stokes.
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Why It Is (And Isn't) Important To Share Common Interests In A Relationship, According To Men